Maybe you have finally made a decision to make a change for the better in your life. It could have been something like eating healthier, exercising daily, or exploring new business opportunities. All of the sudden, a couple of days later you start running into repeated conversations with people telling you why this new direction you are taking is WRONG and nothing good will come of it. So how do you deal with all of these pessimistic individuals who are trying to tear you down, or as most people would refer to them: Haters.
If you Google definition of haters, you will come up with a lame response of “a person who hates”. So in order to more clearly define what I’m referring to here, I turned to Urban Dictionary: “A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s successes.”
Understand that I’m not saying you have haters like you may hear about online, where people are posting new meme’s and such about you and tearing you up left and right just for fun. But maybe in the course of this lifestyle change you have encountered experience more along these lines:
- Your frineds tell you it just won’t work
- People try to convince you that a few beers here and there isn’t’ a big deal, so why worry
- Others think it’s strange when you bring your own food to their party because you need to eat healthier than whats on their menu
- Coworkers and friends start to make comments that you look “sick” and are making them “worried” even though you are at a perfectly normal weight
The list goes on and on. Do any of those sound familiar? If they don’t, then you need to consider yourself incredibly lucky and rejoice in the fact that you have surrounded yourself by extremely supportive individuals! For the rest of us, we are very familiar with this and you may be wondering what to do about it?
The secret to dealing with these haters is to remember that this all comes back to your original “WHY” that caused you to make this change in the first place! Think back on these questions: Why am I doing this? Why is this so important to me? Why can’t I let myself stop? If you can answer those questions for yourself, there is no way any number of haters can pull you down. You have to stay steadfast in your commitment to your goals, regardless of what society or any particular individual tries to tell you. If you have to, take a moment and write down your goals, write down your “WHY” so that you can put it somewhere you can look at it every day and it serves as a way to keep focused on the prize.
Humans are sensitive to changes in their environment. When people around them change, it shakes up their comfort zone and they don’t enjoy that, so the natural reaction is to try to resist that change. They could be turning into haters because the change you have made to better your own life may be pointing out something they didn’t want to think about in their own lives. For example, if you have dropped a lot of weight by working out and eating healthy, and they also want to lose weight but have never been able to commit to it, they won’t enjoy seeing someone accomplish something that has been nagging in their mind for quite a while.
You don’t have to apologize for these things. It is your body, your health, your life and it’s your responsibility to take care of it. Haters are gonna hate! But that is not your concern. Hopefully in the long term, the positive energy and example that you are setting for those around you may serve to inspire and motivate them to make changes in their life too. But that is their own decision to make. And if they do choose to, be there to support them when the stop being haters and start being motivators. Personally my “WHY” includes keeping myself as healthy as possible so I can be there for my family and friends when they need me, have plenty of energy so I can enjoy the world around me, and protecting this body that God gave me to fulfill whatever purpose it is he has put me here to do! When you establish your “WHY”, nothing any haters say will keep you from reaching that light at the end of the tunnel, I can guarantee you that!
Your Friend in Success,
Independent Beachbody Coach